Remember when you were in school and you didn’t do so well on a test the teacher might give you a chance to do it over? You went back to review all your notes and homework assignments. Especially the ones you got wrong on the test so that you wouldn’t make the same mistake again. You got help from a tutor. Then the next time you took the test you passed! You may not have gotten a 100% score but you passed and felt good about it and yourself.
That’s how it is with a do-over in life. You get a chance to study the mistakes you made in the past, learn from them and do better going forward. You may not get it right all the time but if you took good notes and studied well you learned some valuable lessons. Here are five important principles to help you do better if it’s your second, third, fourth, or even tenth do-over.
It might sound strange if you are feeling really down, struggling to make ends meet or have had what you consider to be great losses. But gratitude is essential. Why? Because when you are grateful, you focus on what you do have and not what you don’t. You dwell on the positive and not the negative. Gratitude recognizes that it could be worse. Gratitude also recognizes that you have another chance.
You must believe that your life can get better. Some people get stuck in a rut after a devastating or disappointing life event because they focus on what happened in the past and never let their minds shift to what CAN happen in the future. Look for other people who have rebuilt their lives after similar devastating events. Let them be your encouragement. If they did it, you can too. After all, they’re human just like you.
This might be difficult for you if you already feel vulnerable. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of your humanity and imperfection which is perfectly normal. Seek help. Remember the tutor in school? Your tutor in life may be a mentor, life coach, counselor, or business consultant. Use the resources available to ensure that you’ve learned the right life lessons to do better this time around.
Rome was not built in a day. You can rebuild your life but it will take time. It will not happen overnight. This is another area that causes people to feel defeated because they look at all the hard work from the past and compare it to the work they might have to do in order to have it all again. Honestly, if you learned the right lessons it won’t take nearly as long. That’s why some millionaires have lost millions and then earned it all back in what seems like no time at all because they learned from their mistakes.
Never, ever give up. Most of us have had multiple do-overs but we keep rebounding because we never give up. Remember, failure is not final unless you give up. Settle in your mind now that giving up is not an option. Every step toward building your life again is progress no matter how small or slow. Keep moving forward.
No matter where you are in life, no matter how old you are or the size of your bank account this is your chance for a do-over. If you view it as a blessing and not a curse you can still live the life you want on your terms with no regrets. Your mindset and actions will bring about the progress and change you desire for your life. Let’s pass this test with flying colors!